Manama, Kingdom of Bahrain-Maybe we are commonly react negatively with anger to another person’s anger filled words or actions, which we perceive to be unjustified or unreasonable. But this kind of action on our part, which we feel is our right and is a justified reaction or response, only adds to the negative energy already existing inside a particular situation, increasing the energy and making the situation even more complicated and difficult to resolve, two negatives never make a positive, they make a higher negative, to which a very high, positive has to be added to bring the situation back to neutral or normal. Also, when you react, you are doing exactly what you believe the other person, the attacker, is doing – injuring someone on an emotional level, which is a form of subtle violence.
The other person’s negative behaviour shows at that particular moment that he/she is experiencing an emptiness or void of peace, a void which he/she believes you have created and can only be re-filled by you. The anger filled action is a desire directed towards you, for this filling up. Hidden behind his/her anger is the feeling, “Because of this person, I have lost my happiness at this particular moment and he/she should give it back to me immediately”, which means that the other person is lacking the realization that no other person is ever responsible for your happiness.
If you react instead of emerging the values of tolerance and forgiveness which makes you similar to him/ her possessing a similar belief, something which you will definitely not appreciate too much, you will hides your ability to see how you are yourself injuring the other, while you are in that emotional state, there is no way you can heal the wounds of the other’s heart.
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